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Bitter roots that defile ourselves and others
Bitter-root expectancies work as self-fulfilling prophesies: we expect life to go in a certain way, and it often does. If we think life is hard and it is a struggle to survive, this often proves to be our experience. But whether it does or not, we tend to look at life through the lens of our unconscious expectations, and to treat others in ways that tend to bring back to us what we expected in the first place. For example, if we believe we are a failure, we are likely to attract situations to ourselves where we do fail, and even if we don't fail, our perception is that we failed. If we suffered neglect, abandonment, or lack of acknowledgement in some way as a child (whether physical or emotional), we might attract relationships that perpetuate this expectation, and we are unacknowledged and unappreciated. If our father / mother was emotionally cold towards us, we might grow up insecure and desperate for love, and yet enter into relationships with other emotionally cold people who are unable to give us the love and affection that we so badly need. Our bitter-root expectation is then strengthened.
Many of our expectations of life were conditioned in childhood. For example, if we did not receive sufficient, love, affection and affirmation as a child, we might grow up believing that we are not lovable. This is a common condition and many people suffer from a lack of self-worth and self-love. Or we might believe that in order to be loved, we must be good and we must perform well. We do not believe that we are lovable just as we are, so as adults we feel the need to prove ourselves. This is especially the case if our parents were performance orientated and expected us to achieve well. This is a huge area, and impacts on our ability to accept the grace and love of God. If we believe that we have to earn love, then we will not allow ourselves to accept the grace of God. The entire church split over the issue of grace vs works. We find it hard to believe that God loves us unconditionally, no matter who we are and what we did. We cannot receive or give unconditional love and we judge and condemn ourselves and others. Do some of these attitudes sound familiar to you? Do you wish to break free from the bondage and limitation that they cause in your life? This is part of the hugely important area of inner healing, so that we can grow towards the knowledge that we are fully loved and lovable, that we are of infinite worth, that we are beautiful beloved beings.
Inner Healing: Weekend Retreat Sat 25 - Mon 27 April
Part of the work in this retreat involves identifying life patterns and tracing them back into our childhoods to the wounded inner child who is still living within us, whether we are aware of this or not. Some patterns are not obvious or easy to see, as they are governed by hidden motives and structures in our hearts. The truth sets us free. But many times the truth is hidden from ourselves due to projection, denial and not wanting to see certain things. So the power of these hidden beliefs and attitudes remains and is often even strengthened by self-fulfilling prophesies, and they carry on influencing us covertly or overtly. During this retreat, we will become more aware of the forces operating in our lives. We will nail them to the cross so that they die, and so that we are resurrected into new life, with the potential and possibility of moving forward into the fullness of all that God intended us to be.
We invite you to experience this retreat workshop where you will revive mind, body and soul as you work in alignment with your inner compass. This weekend will empower you to begin making changes that will enable you to live a more relaxed, happy, authentic and fulfilled life, regardless of your life situation.
Set in picturesque Plettenberg Bay, this spiritual retreat is the perfect place to embark on an Inner Healing Journey. Accommodation for those travelling from afar is available in beautiful sanctuary cottages in a peaceful garden setting.